As I watch my youngest grandchild sleep, I am surprised by how quickly the years pass. At two, my granddaughter possesses so many of her mother’s attributes that I find myself mesmerized when she strikes a pose or becomes excited over a new discovery. I see my daughter all over again at that age, and the fondest of memories come racing back. Of course, my grandchild’s paternal grandmother sees her son in the very same toddler. For sound biological reasons, these perceptions serve to enhance the attachment process and secure survival in a developing child.
The touches, smells, and smiles of a child are meant to elicit positive responses from adults. The mutual sensitive touches, sounds, and smiles of caretakers bring forth happiness and laughter. All these ongoing interactions contribute to important brain, emotional, and physical growth. All these mechanisms assure that a child gets the stimulation necessary for healthy development.
When a child leaves the familiarity of one’s family of origin and is placed with strangers (as is the case of foster care), these bonding rituals become extremely important. The foster parent cares for the child when the child does not carry shared genetic material. They care with love and dedication and hope that they can repair whatever sadness the child has faced. Foster parents are unusual. They make countless sacrifices. Through their efforts, a child develops healthy relationship skills.
If you think you would like to become a foster/adoptive parent, please call 818-988-6300 and speak with us regarding this incredibly valuable experience. Orientation and classes are available on weekends to respond to the needs of working families.