A few weeks back, I met this very nice lady at a store I was shopping in. We hit it off immediately, and she gave me her phone number to set up a date. That weekend we met up for coffee… what else. I knew we were both attracted, so I asked to see her that night. She said sure, let’s meet for dinner. Now we are at dinner having a wonderful time, when I started thinking about what some of my friends said to me days before. You see my friends are always looking out for me, not wanting to see me get hurt again. Why some of my closest friends would even take a bullet for me. Okay that might be a bit much, but you know what I mean, a true friend. Well some of my friends actually knew this woman, not so much personally but in a third person sense. They told me that she was no good, that she only wanted to use me, and that she had done this to many men. Now normally I listen to my friends, because they are my friends. But on the subject of people, I have never been able to take a person’s word on whether someone is nice or not. I like to find out firsthand about someone before I make any judgment.
How many times have any of you been told to not go out with him or her, because they are not your type, or they date around, or even that they just do not like that person. Could it just be that maybe they were interested in dating that person, or perhaps they just do not want to see you happier than they are? Look at our everyday lives; we all have friends that our other friends don’t get along with. Whether it’s at work, or people we grew up with, or even family. The bottom line is if you might be interested in dating someone; don’t let someone else talk you out of it. I would rather take a chance than always wonder what if. I took this chance and I am glad I did. We had a few good dates before we both realized that we were not a “match,” but she did not use me; at least I don’t think she did. We parted friends, and I would not hesitate setting her up with one of my friends. Some things you should find out for yourself.
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