Since my divorce many years ago, I have been on a number of dates. Yes it’s a large number. So now you wonder why, after all this time I have not found her? Well I thought I had a few times, but something would always come up. Let’s see a show of hands for anyone who has ever dated someone, only to find out they had some red flags. Now for some of you who may not know this term, this has nothing to do with bug spray. When you hear someone say a person has some red flags, they are referring to something about that person that can end a relationship. This can be a very simple thing, or it could be very complicated. In any event it’s not a good thing. This happens equally with men and women. We all have red flags, and it seems I have an awful lot. Mostly it’s just that I do not possess something a lot of women are looking for.
Why am I bringing this up? Because I wanted to talk about some very obvious red flags. I have been noticing that it’s happening more and more. There are women and I am sure men too, that are dating while separated or still going through the divorce. Now I am sure a lot of you are saying, “so what.” Well all I can say is through my dating experience I have found that women are not ready for dating or a committed relationship while they are still going through the divorce process. Some I have dated were two years into the process, and others were even five years. It made me think about the McCourt’s, the Dodgers’ owners. Even they were able to get that divorce done in pretty good time. I have also dated some women who were either separated or divorced, and still living with their ex. Yes I know it’s for monetary purposes. I just cannot understand how you can date, and then go home to your ex. To me, these are red flags. Even though I thought they were very nice, I could see they were not ready for dating, and I have to say it made me feel uncomfortable. Like the one woman who told me she just broke up with her boyfriend that she was in love with. Look we are all going to do what we want to do. It’s just in today’s world wouldn’t it be so much easier to date if both people were totally free of their ex. Write to Paul: scvsingle@yahoo.com.