As our parents age, we often take on the role of caregiver to provide them the support they need. The added role of caregiving in an adult child’s already busy life can be disorienting and stressful. Combine this with the additional challenge of communicating with a loved one who has dementia and your role can become even more frustrating and at times confusing.
Here are some general tips to consider when communicating with someone who has dementia.
• Be mindful of your body language.
• Maintain eye contact.
• Display a calm and gentle manner.
• Utilize gentle touch such as handholding or a pat on the back to communicate encouragement and maintain their focus.
• Speak slowly and enunciate your words.
• Avoid negative commands such as “Don’t” or “You shouldn’t”
• Avoid questions that require a strong short term memory, “What did you have for lunch today?”
• Utilize your loved one’s long term memory, “I hear you are a wonderful cook.”
• Give simple instructions with one step at a time.
• Respond as though you understand, even if at times you do not.
• Speak in a respectful manner to your loved one, avoid a condescending tone.
• Avoid arguing and ordering the person around.
By taking a moment and considering the key points above, you will be better equipped to work through the challenging moments and turn what could be a stressful situation in to beautiful moments of love and connection.
For more information about caring for loved ones with dementia or to learn about our Connections for Living by MBK® memory care program, contact Oscar Lugo at Summerhill Villa at 661-254-9933 or visit our website at www.mbkseniorliving.com.