The Talk: How to Start the Senior Care Conversation

The discussion of senior care with aging parents and close relatives is a difficult conversation to have. It can be uncomfortable for all parties involved, but it is necessary to ensure the well being of a loved one as they grow older. There are a host of factors to consider when beginning such talks that will affect the entire family.
Timing is Everything – When to have the senior care conversation is always difficult to determine. It is honestly never too early. Rather than waiting until the senior’s health is deteriorating, do it when they are of sound mind and body. This assures them that they have had some say in what the latter stages of their life will look like. Many caregivers and family members have experienced resentment from their seniors because they feel as though they have no control over their own lives. If they are included in an early conversation, this ensures their input.
Location Matters – Where the conversation takes place matters. The atmosphere should never be intimidating where the loved one will feels as though the family is ganging up on them. It should be calm, and in a family-oriented place such as someone’s home or a private venue.
Choose a Leader – Someone has to lead the pack. The family should select a point person to plan and lead the discussion. This decision may the most difficult for some families, especially in the case of a parent with more than one child. A pre-talk among the people closest in relation to the senior must take place. While the responsibilities can be shared, there has to be one person everyone can look to for details and instruction.
Support is Imperative – Showing up matters. It speaks volumes to loved ones when their relatives tell them they care but seeing actions match words resonates with them. The same is true when the senior care conversation begins. Involve everyone close to them. Show them they are not alone.
Gather Information – Call for help when planning the discussion. At Comfort Keepers, we understand the endless questions, comments or concerns that may arise when having this discussion. Our staff is available 24/7 to answer any senior care
Myles McNamara, owner of Comfort Keepers In-Home Care, is a Certified Senior Advisor and works professionally with families in the area of senior care. He can be reached at 661-287-4200. You can also go to www.seniorcaresantaclairta.com.