Recommendations for the First few Days of Fostering a Child by a Former Foster Child

 1. Leave an open line of communication.
This can be as simple as, “If you want to talk about anything, I want to listen.” or “How are you feeling?” or “Do you need anything?” Even if you don’t get an answer, the intent is there. You never know when they will take you up on your offer.
2. Don’t expect anything.
Laying down your family’s lifestyle and rules is important, but don’t expect any child to mold to what you expect in 3 days, 3 weeks, or 3 months. You don’t know what they’ve been through. Some things are easy to change, and some seem insurmountable.
3. Take care of the basics.
Underwear, socks, school supplies, personal care items, clothes. Food they will eat falls into this category too. I always asked if they had a preference for toothpaste, shampoo, a toothbrush, deodorant, and snacks. This gives them a little control over their new world and can provide a small slice of normalcy when everything else is different.
4. Take care of you.
A new person in your home can feel overwhelming on both sides. Making sure you have a support system in place where you can ask for help or advice is important. If you are overwhelmed, how are you going to help a child? Pray, take deep breaths, read a book, take a walk, write, or do something that helps you clear your mind and focus.
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