For the past few months I have been reading Julie’s column, Single in Santa Clarita and while I have enjoyed her exploits, I kept thinking something was missing. I realized this was only a woman’s view of dating so I decided, let’s get the guys take on dating. Now since this is my first column, I wanted to go with something good, but simple. So I decided on a first date. Is it a meeting or a first date?
More and more, the women I have met for the first time call it a meeting, not a first date. And I answer the same way to all of them. A meeting is a first date. Most were adamant against that. Some even got a little irate. So now I am wondering why a lot of women are so against calling it a first date. Is it because we are meeting somewhere like Starbucks and not picking you up at your place? Or maybe it is because a meeting sounds more relaxed? Is this the norm now in the 21st century or have women gotten this notion from watching Oprah?
Now that we are in the 21st century, Internet dating sites are the norm. Does it matter if you met off a dating site? Either way, the first meeting is a date. If your friends set you up, is it called a blind meeting or a blind date? Calling it a blind date does not obligate a woman for anything whether it’s a hug or a kiss or even paying. I am old fashioned and believe that a man should always pay, at least on the first date.
Now if you decide to see each other again, what is it called, a first date or a second meeting? And why? I have to say that I have never gone on a meeting, but I have gone on many first dates.
So ladies after you go on your first meeting or date, do you friends actually ask how your meeting went or do they ask how your date went?
The last thing I would like to address is being on time. Is that important? Yes! A deal breaker? No. I have always believed in giving a good 15-minute leeway. Why, you may ask? Well because most of us are divorced and have kids. We all have busy lives and there are so many things that can happen at the last minute. So next time you are invited to coffee, drinks or even dinner by someone you might be interested in, always have a good time no matter what. And try to remember, he is not asking you out on a meeting, he is asking you out on a date!
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