As I sit here reminiscing about this past year, I could not believe it, I am still single! I have been blessed to be able to date some very nice women out here, and to also write about some of my exploits in my column. I am very thankful for this opportunity. So what did I learn this year? One thing is that in this family community, there are a lot more singles out there than I ever imagined. I also found out that women are having just as hard a time finding someone as guys are. There is no easy answer on where to go to find someone. Maybe we should all just wear t-shirts that say, “I’m Single.” A lot of people are going to the Internet for dating. If you do, make sure you put a very recent photo of yourself on there. There is absolutely no excuse for not being able to do that, in this day and age. Make sure when you are filling out your profile to make it short. No one wants to read a novel and be truthful.
I have talked to some people who just want to give up on dating. When I ask why they all pretty much say the same thing, they attract the wrong types. We have all gone out with the wrong types. Learn from it. Try something new. Go to a New Year’s Eve party. There are singles nights out here at different places and nights. You can find out a lot of things on Facebook. Now when you go on that coffee date, if you really want to impress your date, just be yourself. And ladies if you want that guy to know you are really interested; a goodnight kiss will tell him a lot better than a handshake or a hug. A kiss does not make you look easy. Or just because you go out on a date once or twice a week, does not mean you are a player. In order to find that LTR you have to keep trying. There are a lot of great people out here in Santa Clarita; sooner or later you will find that certain person.
So let’s make 2011 a great year for dating, and finding a great relationship.
Write to Paul for singles nights updates at scvsingle@yahoo.com.