Are we qualified for relationships? What about parenting? Qualifications are scrutinized for job applications, driver’s licenses or credit requests. Yet when couples marry or become parents, experience isn’t questioned. School teaches us to tie our shoes, that two plus two equals four and how to read. But what about maintaining important relationships, running a household or distinguishing between love and intimacy? Shouldn’t something as important as rearing children require proof of experience?
I believe parenting is the most important job in the world, yet no one checks a parents qualifications beforehand (adoptive parents accepted).
Rooted firmly in our past with magnified negatives and minimized positives, our background colors the parent we become. As a girl I struggled with relationships and self worth. I couldn’t get it right and that prepared me for parenthood; parents get stuck trying to do things right. But what’s right or wrong for that matter and who made these rules?
Oh wait… we did. Our rulebook was written from our core beliefs, which color our perceptions, relationships and ultimately the kind of parent we become.
Some parents get stuck in the muck and mire of life, deprecating themselves for something they shouldn’t have said or done. They question feelings for their mate, while making decisions that affect a child’s growth and development. What’s left to give to a relationship or our children if we’re busy beating ourselves up?
We focus on what our mate is not doing and overlook the things that they are; learn to listen with your heart. Releasing your ego can change your life, revealing your purpose. We all worry about our family. When we stop the real trouble begins. Parents, be kinder to yourselves. What other job could you get without experience that is this important? You’re doing okay.
Seek out the puzzle pieces needed to create and build our life’s foundation. Change old beliefs that no longer serve you and watch your life become something you’ve always pictured. We can work on it together and discover you, the parent.
Contact me for a consultation at 661-255-6044, Liz@LizHodson.com or www.LizHodson.com . You can also catch me on KHTS AM 1220, “The Coach is In”, www.hometownstation.com .