So here I am, after my latest date, trying to figure out why it did not work. As I thought about it, and asked some friends, I found out this is not an isolated incident. This is a lot more widespread than I thought. It seems that an awful lot of men and women are looking for this. I never paid much attention to it, but obviously it is very important to a lot of people.
Now that I have your attention, and curiosity, it is time to address this. I have been told quite a few times from my dates, that we have nothing in common. Now I take rejection as well as anyone, but when you tell me there is “nothing” in common, I have to wonder. Ok, I am not a Harvard graduate, but I am smart enough to know that it is a million to one that there is nothing in common. So now I want to go in depth on this subject, and find out why a woman, or man would say this. My first thought is they are trying to find a nice way out of dating that person. Then again some of them could actually believe there is nothing in common. Is it really nothing in common, or is it one or two things that are deal breakers. I guess that I go against the grain. I never go into a date wondering what we might have in common. Silly me I figure that all of us have one thing in common, looking for a connection. What do you actually need in common to have a relationship? Someone to travel with, maybe go to Europe. I think it’s better to have differences. I do not want a mini me. I would like to try new things with my date. Of course it does not mean that you need to do everything they like to do. Now of course if she wanted to skydive, I would go and be her ground support. We all have differences, so to tell someone that you have nothing in common, is extreme. So the next time you are sitting at home without a date, think about all those dates you had with people you had a lot in common with, that did not work out. Then you can say how important having something in common is.
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