Halloween, when you’re separated or going through a divorce with children can be a spooky time if not approached with your children in mind. Halloween is one of those tricky holidays where both parents want to have that ‘fun and scary experience.’
While Halloween isn’t nearly as tough on divorced families as other Holidays, it is difficult in that it is only for one night. This year Halloween is on a school night so the opportunities to expand into the weekend can present greater challenges.
It’s only one night of walking the streets with your children saying the famed “Trick or Treat,” whereas, Thanksgiving, Hanukah or Christmas can be spread out over two days, or even a week.
Halloween is one of those holidays that are often forgotten when laying out a parenting plan. Parents remember Christmas, Hanukah, and Thanksgiving but forget about Halloween, and that can become a source of contention because Halloween is becoming a new favorite holiday for kids.
So what should you do so that everyone is able to have a good time, despite the fact that you’re no longer living in the same house together as a family?
Some families split the day while others alternate years. Many parents try to come together for the sake of the children. If doing a joint night is not an option, consider other Halloween events, such as haunted houses or a costume party for your children and their friends on a different night. The alternatives are endless with a little creativity if you and the other parent are unable to reach an amicable resolution.
Try to adhere to the rule of ‘put your children first’. Remember this is their fun day. Don’t lose perspective and hold tight to a visitation schedule that may force them to spend their time away from their friends simply because it’s your designated time with your child. In truth, it’s not your time or your ex’s time…it’s your child(ren)’s time.
Have fun and be safe out there!
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