Life, as much as we plan it, sometimes throws us curves. We get married and start living, but when children are introduced we get caught up in life and forget why we got married. Children change relationships and you and your mate end up wanting different things.
Ultimately some of us face divorce.
Do you stay for your children or do you leave for you? When being married is not making love anymore and making love is a chore, do you look for the door or stay? How do you tell friends or family, especially if you’ve been through it before? How will children be affected? It is difficult to show kids love while angry at your partner. Our kids are a reflection of us and if we are angry with our mate, kids may take that on and feel we are angry with them. They feel stuck in the middle or responsible for the separation.
Realize that we pave our children’s path but not our spouse’s. Learn to love your mate again or decide it’s time to move on from the relationship. Should you stay or go? I can help you navigate your way down that path. Once you are open to communicating with your mate during the painful transition of divorce, you have an opportunity to show children how to love through difficult times and to teach them about relationships of all sorts. Divorce is a loss like a death. It is important to let our children see our human side as we mourn the loss of a relationship.
We have kids together for a reason but, however far we’ve come from that reason, never let them pay for the anger we are feeling toward the mate we once loved.
If you are facing a difficult life transition, call Liz Hodson to find out how she can guide you through your process.
For more information contact Liz at 661-255-6044, or check out her website at www.lizhodson.com. Note: Last month’s article about the Mom’s Mixer contained a phone number error. The next Mom’s Mixer is Thursday, April 12 from 7 p.m. – 9 p.m. All moms are welcome.