Let’s play: What went wrong?
Date 1 – We met at a two-day training and sat next to each other for 16 hours. We had a great time, enjoyed each other’s company and shared a lot of laughs. So, he asked for my phone number. Gladly, I gave it and waited for the call. The next day, he asked me out. “What would you like to do?” he asked.
Does this question make you uncomfortable? It always seemed to me that if someone asks me out, there might be a game plan behind it. If not, I’m flexible. Something as simple as “drinks and munchies” makes a nice, relaxing, low-anxiety first date with someone you’ve already spent time with. (If it’s off the Internet, I recommend coffee).
The date went well and I called to say thank you. After several days, he asked me out again. I said Yes! “What would you like to do?” was also asked again. By now, my perceived flexibility needed adjusting. So I recommended mini golf at The Greens. There’s food, drinks, and a fun game to play together. He seemed willing, but when we met there, he asked, “Do we really want to do this?” Well, I thought we did. But I’ve been wrong before. So where did we go? Fridays – for “drinks and munchies.”
Date 3 (do you believe it got that far?) – “What would you like to do?” he asked. Nope. I’m not playing this game again. I offered to drive to his side of the world, and I suggested that he make the decision. I left it all up to him. Dinner, he said. He called on the afternoon of the date to give me directions and asked, ”So, what would I like to do?” I reminded him that it was his backyard and, therefore, his decision. He obviously forgot about the dinner suggestion. So guess where we went? Fridays – near Northridge, for “drinks and munchies.” Afterwards, we walked out to the car. He asked it one last time – “Now what would you like to do?” Then he suggested that we walk through the Wal-Mart across from Fridays. I thanked him and drove home.
What went wrong? You might think it was a monetary issue, yet he wouldn’t accept money for the check when I offered. Was there just no motivation there? No impetus to create a memorable evening? I’ll never figure it out, but I have to tell you, I’ll never look at Wal-Mart the same way again!
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