Help! I’m Divorcing a Narcissist!

 Divorcing a narcissist is the most expensive, painful and prolonged divorce one can endure. It takes forever to get through the court system with these people, and even when you do, you have to force their compliance with court orders with more court intervention and Contempt filings. Narcissists do not understand anything other than absolute power and control over them and their actions by a judge. You may be back in court many times after your divorce is final because narcissists believe they are above the law and can tell the judge how things are going to be.  You cannot “win over” a narcissist to behave properly. You cannot guilt them or cajole them into behaving properly.  You cannot plead with them to dial it down or to be “sane” for the sake of the children. Nice guys finish dead last with narcissists in Court. You have to be willing to hold their feet to the fire and have the emotional, spiritual and financial strength to expose them to the Court every single time they violate a court order. Why? Because they don’t comply any other way.  Unsure of whether your spouse is a narcissist? Well, here are nine symptoms identified in the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders):
• Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).
• Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
• Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
• Requires excessive admiration/compliments and is overly sexually suggestive/provocative.
• Has a very strong sense of entitlement, e.g., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations.
• Is exploitative of others, e.g., takes advantage of others for their own personal gain.
• Lacks empathy, e.g., is unwilling to truly recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
• Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.
• Regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.
For help in divorcing from your narcissist, call Denise Placencio at 877- 317-8080.