Letting Go Through Divorce

 Disney’s animated picture Frozen depicts the heroine Elsa singing “Let it Go”. If you are going to successfully navigate your divorce, you need to let things go as well. Here is a good place to start:
(1). Let go of people who don’t support you. When you go through difficult times, you find out who’s really in your corner. Some friends and relatives who you thought would always be there for you will end up abandoning you. Others will step up and offer astonishing amounts of support, kindness and sage advice. Once it becomes clear that a particular person just isn’t there for you (or may even be working against you), you need to let them go. Concentrate on keeping the positive people in your life and actively seek out new friends. Old “friends” are not necessarily better. (2) Let go of anger. Anger is an essential part of the grieving and recovery process, so these feelings are understandable and – to a point – useful. However, eventually your wrath will outlive its usefulness. It will work against you, poisoning your spirit and preventing you from living a full life. (3) Release fear. Fear is a basic human emotion; it is required for our survival as individuals and as a species. Fear will paralyze you into inaction. Fear will keep you awake at night. Studies have proven that 90 percent of what we fear never happens. Release fear and channel that energy into action. (4) Ditch bad habits. Surprisingly some people develop bad habits during their divorce. In order to “escape” from whatever pain they are dealing with, some turn to alcohol, drugs or promiscuous sexuality. You can either develop good habits (exercise, a new hobby, meeting up with old friends) or bad habits during your divorce. Be conscious of your choices and correct the course if necessary. Focus on a healthy lifestyle.
Don’t waste time focusing on what’s behind you. Take Elsa’s advice: turn away and slam the door. You’ll find a new door in front of you – the door that leads to your future happy life.
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