Complications of a Relationship

Complications of a Relationship  Relationships can be frustrating when we need to balance our own personal needs and desires with those of our partner. The following scenario can be used to address this issue. A couple discusses the results of the husband’s recent...

Expressing Expectations or Preferences

Expressing Expectations or Preferences Depending on the results you seek, there are differences between expressing expectations or preferences. Is your goal to control or influence? Expectations are generally used when people want to control others, while preferences...

Therapy In Advance… or in crisis?

Therapy In Advance… or in crisis?  Often, people don’t think of therapy while life is going smoothly. People assume therapy is just to deal with major conflicts. Why rock the boat? Many people fear therapy complicates lives, so reluctantly seek it only when they feel...

View the Results of Your Choices

View the Results of Your Choices  It’s so easy to rationalize what we’ve done or place blame to explain results, yet where does that take us? Rather than maintaining familiar patterns that don’t give desired results, determine what changes you can make to improve...

Addressing the True Issues

Addressing the True Issues A drunk crawls around under a street lamp. A man approaches, asking if he lost something. “I lost my keys,” he responds. “Let me help,” the man offers. After a thorough search, the man asks, “Are you sure you lost them here?” The drunk...