Denials

Denials  Denials might be wishful thinking, but they’re usually lies. Are those giving them attempting to fool others… or fool themselves? We may want to believe we’re not something, but does declaring it make it so? The more people insist they don’t do certain...

Choose What Works for You

Choose What Works for You  Commonly, couples come into therapy quick to lay blame. They blame themselves, others or outside influences. Unfortunately, people assume once blame has been placed there is nothing else for them to do. How often are you motivated by...

Dealing with Disappointment

Dealing with Disappointment  Not everyone we are drawn to will be drawn to us. Though we may be disappointed, our hopes were dashed, it doesn’t need to be looked at as a negative experience, if we’ve learned from the experience. When we truly care about people, we’re...

New Opportunities

New Opportunities  Each new year brings new opportunities. Do we choose to maintain our present patterns, ending with the same results, or do we choose to make subtle changes to fine tune the direction of our life? People make New Year’s resolutions, yet how many are...

Variations on a Basic Recipe

Variations on a Basic Recipe  Can you survive on the same menu for the rest of your life? It’s possible (and even likely if you are male), but that doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate variations. We can jump from one item to the next, or we can make subtle changes to the...